Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands
The word “submit” is
translated from the Greekword hupotasso. which basically means under order. The implication is that of a chain of command that is ordained by Olodumare. When used in relationsembraces that him, the meaning is absolute
in that there is no one higher in the chain-of-command than Olodumare. Secondly, He will never ask us to do anything that He will not enable us
to do or anything contrary to righteousness.
The husband is second
in the chain-of command. The facts that are true and consistent
about Olodumare are not always true of husbands. Husbands often expect wives to do
things that the husband has not enabled the wife to do.
For instance; A husband
should not expect his wife to provide nutritious and delectable delights for
his meals when all he has provided is a paltry budget for food.
He should not
expect his wife to keep an orderly home when he is the primary source of its
disorder.
A husband has no right to demand that his wife submit to him in
anything that Olodumare has forbidden.
A wife is not obligated to obey unrighteous
commands.
E.T.C....
The first criterion for a young woman to
carefully consider is the character of the person she intends to marry. The
very nature of a person’s external priorities reveals vast quantities of facts
about his character. Find a man who have Iwa Pele first and foremost and
you will not have to spend the first few years of your marriage relationship
praying for a miracle of transformation in his life. Selfish people will
destroy everything they dominate. They manipulate and desecrate. They do not edify.
Do not let desperation or lust determine who you will marry. When choosing a
husband or wife, do not trade loneliness for misery.
A father that does not know how to love his wife and daughters will create disparate women who reach out for any semblance of affection from anybody that comes along their pathway. Fathers are forced to watch in horror as some degenerate monster seduces his daughter away, and sometimes even his wife. Men put too much emphasis on the submission of their wives. They would solve the dilemma they create if they would be more concerned about being a husband trustworthy of his wife’s gift of submission.
Do not
confuse the gift of submission with forced
submission. Forced submission will eventually seek to escape from the
person doing the forcing. It is
not difficult to gift
submission to a husband who
manifests both the principle of omoluabi and Iwa pele both in words and actions. If a man has married a good and spiritually cultured woman and a woman has married a good and spiritually cultured man, neither will find it difficult to fulfill their roles in their marriage
relationship. It will not be difficult to submit to your husband if your husband is living a disciplined life.
However, if your husband
lives like the monster and acts like a bull dog, expect to find great difficulty
living with him and submitting to his decisions.The wife in relationship
to her husband is the primary model that shapes a culture in that it shapes the
lives of her children.
Husbands,
love your wives
Our physical natures seek to dominate by bullying and anger. The word “dominance” will send a shiver up the spine of most women, and so it should. No one wants to be dominated in any part of their life. When the term is applied to marriage, it becomes even scarier.Women have been considered inferior for centuries. you look at history and women are sold, abused and even traded and all kinds other stuff. Things like that will most likely never change. The thing is some women don't do anything about it, they don't express their feelings and they let men walk all over them. it's because women let men walk all over them that the dominant thing passes on to the children and they grow up to think that's right. These are merely lecherous methods of manipulation to control. An abusive, unloving, husband, who lack discipline and iwa pele, will do more to destroy the influence
of the children than anything else. Poor spiritual leadership
in the home is the culprit that destroys families and ultimately destroys the
cultures in which those families exist. Rebellion begins in the home.
The wife’s rebellion is equally destructive to a culture. This is the outcome of the Feminist Movement. Osun was the first deiety to start women's liberation. Granted, ungodly husbands are the primary cause of rebellion in the lives of their wives. Feminism is a reaction against a cultural aberration created in most part by men abusing the leadership roles in the home. The Feminist Movement helped women escape from abusive homes on numerous levels. In some cases, it is difficult to criticize due to the extreme abuse that exists in many homes.
It is easy
to see the cascading nature of cultural aberrations when wives and husbands
fail as godly role models. Cultural failure is like a rock-slide that begins
when one rock begins to slide and becomes more destructive as the slide becomes
magnified in each succeeding generation.
The primary definition
of a man loving his wife is selflessness.
Imagine what our children’s’ lives might be like if fathers could model and
reproduce this character in their children. What is the single most annoying
character flaw that manifests gross and discussing immaturity in anyone’s life?
What are the two word’s that communicate this single most annoying character
flaw manifesting gross and disgusting immaturity in anyone’s life?
1.
Me
2.
Mine
Love is a gift given of grace. Love is not a gift given
because it is deserved. love is
always selfless and sacrificial. This is the way a husband is to love his wife.
This is the model of loving that the father teaches his children.
A selfish person refuses
to recognize his selfishness. Therefore, a selfish person will never confess he
has been selfish to his wife or children. The first avenue of correcting being
unloving is to admit . The
second avenue of correction is to confess it to your wife and children. The
third avenue of correction is to stop living selfishly and begin living selflessly.
Take away the impatient, harsh, and critical words and replace them with
tenderness, understanding, and nurturing patience.
Atete se oogun
Omo kekere
To ba gbo iburu
Yi o dide
A yi ile
A tamora
A si gba apo oogun bo orun
Adifa fun osolake
Nijo ngbogun lo ilubirin
Sun mo o mi
Ogun ni obirin
Po gege mo o lorun
Ogun obinrin ni
First to strike is first to win
At first alarm the young warrior dashes into his armoury
Don his battle –dress replete with amulets and charms and attacks the
enemy
Thus declared Ifa Oracle to Osalase on his way to besiege that fortress
which woman hide and defend from intrepid male assault
In this peculiar battle
Caresses and embraces
Are weapon of offence
Best calculated for victory.Ifa categorically spell it out in odu Osemosa, that caresses and embraces are the weapon to win a war with women not violent. Why dont you caresses and embraces your woman today just as Olodumare has specify.
