Sunday, October 25, 2015

Natural pigmentation as factor affecting relationships and marriage survival.

             In ancient traditional Yoruba culture,  one of the requirements for choosing a life partner is seeking spiritual guidance,  approval and opinions in individual choice of life partner. Nobody will want to believe that our natural pigmentation can be the reason for our relationship failures.
             Just as most are aware that with initiation ceremonies comes personal taboos which individual must abide by throughout their lifetime. Getting a taboo that will be observed for a longer period isn't restricted to initiation reading alone.  A non initiation reading can come with sets of taboos that one must follow for life. Example of these are taboos that have something to do with the type of person a certain individual can and cannot marry.
             Ifa can go as far as describing the occupation that we may choose a partner from, a certain body type or heights and even physical complexion.  It can go as far as preventing people from marrying a foreigner to say the least. 
            It is important to abide when we receive such warning and look for partner within our prescription. 
           There are lots of reasons why Ifa may indicate that a particular person have to marry certain type of people.  It could be for prosperity, protection, to avoid sickness or untimely death.  It may even be that our ori only work best with people of the predefined prescription.  It is different for each person.
           In one of the many verses of odu Ifa Idinka, Ifa spoke about avoiding certain physical complexion.  It can say a man should not marry a dark skin person or perhaps a woman to avoid a light skin man.
Depending on the pigmentation of the person who the reading is done for.         
          
In the narrative part of the Odu Idinka. Ina known as fire in English translation is a light skin person,  he was told to avoid getting into relationship or marrying a dark skinned woman.  This was forewarned so that they will not experience separation and abandonment during hard times.
        Ina (fire)  heard the warning but didn't yield to it and did not make sacrifice. He went ahead and married Ikoko, known as a clay pot who is a dark skinned woman.
          As their relationship progresses,  Ikoko couldn't stay still, so she lost her balance, there by causing it to shift and almost extinguishing the fire.
        In traditional Africa kitchen,  a clay pot is use for most cooking.  It is placed directly on top of fire with the help of stones or metal for support. 


   The moment Ikoko lost its balance,  Ina (fire) became uncomfortable and with this, he eventually dies.
      Bi ikoko ba yedi gere,  oju a pada wa ri mabo. ( once the clay pot lost its balance,  one will eventually experience regret and hardship)
      A falling clay pot mean it's content will spill over and which will put out the fire that is the life of the cooking. Ifa speaks proverbial.
              In our personal life most of the difficulty we will experience or maybe experiencing could be avoided. Some may not but strict adherence to taboos can safe us another sacrifice. Most problems emanated from breaking taboos,  eating the forbidden or going around known taboos.
             It important to know, watch and observe our relationship pattern to see which kind of person work for us.
              In every relationship balance is the key, once either partner lost their balance, life will become uncomfortable for the other spouse. loosing balance goes deeper than lack of physical fitness. it could be loss of job, depression, sickness, addiction e.t.c disconnection in relationship becomes deeper more ingrained and the relationship is further affected.
, these are the choices that often lead to resentment, anger, and impatience. Disconnections become deeper and more ingrained and the relationship is further affected. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-when-your-partner-is-depressed-5-truths/#sthash.DBxVJkq2.dpuf
, these are the choices that often lead to resentment, anger, and impatience. Disconnections become deeper and more ingrained and the relationship is further affected. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-when-your-partner-is-depressed-5-truths/#sthash.DBxVJkq2.dpuf
hese are the choices that often lead to resentment, anger, and impatience. Disconnections become deeper and more ingrained and the relationship is further affected. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-when-your-partner-is-depressed-5-truths/#sthash.DBxVJkq2.dpuf


hese are the choices that often lead to resentment, anger, and impatience. Disconnections become deeper and more ingrained and the relationship is further affected. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-when-your-partner-is-depressed-5-truths/#sthash.DBxVJkq2.dpu
, these are the choices that often lead to resentment, anger, and impatience. Disconnections become deeper and more ingrained and the relationship is further affected. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-when-your-partner-is-depressed-5-truths/#sthash.DBxVJkq2.dpuf
                                  
If you are in darkness of life, Consult Ifa. 

Ela boru Ela boye Ela bosise.
       Visit www.iyalajemarket.com for your spiritual needs. 

This article is not to insult dark skin people or to indicate that light skin complexion is more better.

1 comment:

  1. Nor is the article taken as an insult...I have one child who received the advice to not marry anyone lighter in complexion than me. I am light/medium brown. He also received the advice that his best friends are lighter in complexion than himself. He has married someone much lighter than myself. Now all I can do is pray for him/them/future grandchildren.

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